Rights and Wrongs

As parents of kids with autism, we spend a lot of time talking about our children’s rights.   “It’s my son’s right to a free and appropriate education.”  “It’s my daughter’s right to be fully included in a general education class.”  “Be sure you get a lawyer so the school doesn’t trample your child’s rights.”  Search the internet for the words “autism” and “rights” and you’ll be flooded with results.  We spend a lot of bandwidth learning about our children’s rights and how to protect them, as we should.  But why do we rarely hear parents of autistic children talk about the rights of kids who don’t have disabilities?

For instance, I’ve heard parents say, “My child has difficulties with auditory processing, so he needs assistive technology.”  But I’ve never heard, “My child screams so much in the classroom that the other students can’t hear the teacher and it’s affecting their education.”

Frequently parents tell me, “The school needs to implement a behavior plan so my child learns how to use his words instead of hitting.”  Only twice have I heard, “How can we stop my child from hitting other kids?  They shouldn’t be afraid to come to school.”

I’ve heard, “The teacher isn’t helping my child enough,” but not, “If my child is taking up 35% of the teacher’s time, how are the other children getting the attention they need?”

I’ve even seen, “My child has special needs.  She should be on the cheerleading squad even if she isn’t as good as the other girls.”  I don’t think that mom ever thought, “There are only six cheerleaders at our school.  If I insist my daughter is on the team, is she depriving another girl who deserves to be there because of her abilities?”

Note that I’m not talking about when the other kids in a classroom have to suffer inconveniences so that our children can be there.  Not being able to take a peanut butter sandwich to school because another child might die is not a huge sacrifice.  No one has the right to put someone’s life in danger just because their parents can’t figure out something else to put in their lunchbox.  If a child disrupts the classroom occasionally or the disruptions are mild and manageable, the rest of the students can learn to ignore it and move on.  No, what I’m talking about is when the accommodation of our children means other kids are harmed.

The rights of individuals with disabilities are precious, necessary and just as unalienable as those of people without disabilities.  We fought long and hard to ensure that those with special needs have as equal access to the benefits of our society as we can provide.  If we parents don’t defend the rights of our disabled children, our children will lose out.  

But should other people’s children be made to suffer so that our children benefit?  Are children with disabilities the only ones who have rights?  Is one six year old less of a person than another?  

Parents of typical children are expanding their viewpoints and insisting that all children are important, valuable and to be protected, even those with disabilities.  Surely, we parents of kids with special needs can do the same.

– Cassie

PS. If you think this post is helpful, pass it on to someone else.

Share

271 thoughts on “Rights and Wrongs

  1. I as well as my buddies ended up digesting the great tips and hints found on your website then suddenly developed an awful suspicion I never expressed respect to you for those secrets. These men became consequently stimulated to learn all of them and already have certainly been making the most of them. Many thanks for actually being quite accommodating and also for considering these kinds of essential subject matter most people are really wanting to discover. Our sincere regret for not expressing gratitude to you earlier.

  2. Thank you so much for giving everyone an exceptionally marvellous chance to read critical reviews from this website. It is often so pleasant and stuffed with a great time for me and my office peers to visit your web site minimum three times in a week to read the fresh secrets you have. And indeed, we are certainly contented with your spectacular things you serve. Certain 4 tips in this post are truly the simplest we have all had.

  3. I want to get across my respect for your kind-heartedness for individuals who need guidance on this particular theme. Your special dedication to passing the message all over ended up being incredibly useful and have in most cases encouraged people much like me to reach their endeavors. Your own warm and helpful suggestions indicates a lot a person like me and far more to my colleagues. Thanks a lot; from each one of us.

  4. Thank you a lot for providing individuals with an exceptionally terrific chance to discover important secrets from this web site. It’s usually very ideal and also stuffed with a lot of fun for me and my office co-workers to search your website at least thrice in a week to find out the fresh things you have. And of course, we’re always contented for the extraordinary ideas you serve. Selected 3 facts in this post are really the best I have ever had.

  5. Thank you for all of the labor on this web page. Kate delights in making time for investigations and it’s easy to see why. Most of us notice all of the dynamic mode you produce simple guides by means of your website and in addition attract contribution from some others on that subject matter then our favorite girl is undoubtedly becoming educated a lot. Have fun with the rest of the new year. You are performing a fabulous job.

  6. I intended to draft you a bit of word just to give many thanks yet again on your pleasant views you have contributed at this time. This has been so tremendously open-handed with people like you to convey easily what exactly most of us would have marketed for an electronic book in order to make some profit for themselves, principally seeing that you could possibly have done it in the event you desired. The tactics in addition acted like the fantastic way to recognize that other individuals have the same zeal much like my own to understand whole lot more around this issue. I am certain there are a lot more enjoyable periods up front for individuals who look into your website.

  7. Thanks a lot for providing individuals with remarkably terrific opportunity to read from this web site. It really is so kind and as well , stuffed with a great time for me and my office acquaintances to search your blog a minimum of 3 times every week to study the new tips you have. And indeed, I am at all times fascinated concerning the staggering creative ideas you serve. Certain 1 ideas on this page are without a doubt the very best I’ve had.

  8. My spouse and i felt really happy Raymond managed to finish up his studies because of the precious recommendations he gained from your web site. It’s not at all simplistic to just happen to be making a gift of ideas some other people could have been selling. And we grasp we now have the blog owner to give thanks to because of that. These explanations you have made, the straightforward site menu, the friendships you can aid to engender – it’s got most spectacular, and it’s facilitating our son in addition to our family reckon that the theme is cool, which is certainly exceedingly pressing. Many thanks for all the pieces!

  9. Thanks a lot for giving everyone an extremely pleasant opportunity to read in detail from this site. It is always very terrific and full of a good time for me and my office peers to visit your site a minimum of 3 times in one week to study the fresh secrets you have got. Of course, I’m just certainly fascinated for the beautiful inspiring ideas served by you. Some 1 ideas in this posting are in reality the best we have all had.

  10. Youre so cool! I dont suppose Ive learn something like this before. So nice to seek out any individual with some unique ideas on this subject. realy thanks for starting this up. this website is something that’s wanted on the web, someone with a bit of originality. helpful job for bringing something new to the web!

  11. I enjoy you because of all your valuable efforts on this web site. Gloria takes pleasure in getting into investigation and it is simple to grasp why. My spouse and i hear all about the dynamic manner you produce good tips through this blog and in addition recommend contribution from other individuals on the subject matter and our own child has always been being taught a great deal. Enjoy the rest of the new year. Your conducting a dazzling job.

  12. I must convey my gratitude for your generosity for those who need guidance on in this field. Your special commitment to passing the message up and down appeared to be quite practical and has continuously encouraged those like me to get to their objectives. Your amazing invaluable recommendations means much a person like me and further more to my office colleagues. Best wishes; from each one of us.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

You may use these HTML tags and attributes: <a href="" title=""> <abbr title=""> <acronym title=""> <b> <blockquote cite=""> <cite> <code> <del datetime=""> <em> <i> <q cite=""> <strike> <strong>