Here’s a great question to ask the Aspie kid in your life. ”Who is the more effective superhero, Hulk or Batman?” This question is a good way to illustrate uncontrolled vs. controlled anger. Batman is a more effective superhero even though the Hulk is much stronger and Bruce Banner (Hulk’s alter ego) is a genius. Batman and Hulk are both motivated by anger, but because Batman controls his anger, he is more often able to attain his goals.
Note: if your Aspie is a comic book junkie, this question will probably result in a passionate discussion/argument because there’s probably no chance that you know a tenth of what your Aspie knows about comics. So, if you don’t know what color Hulk was originally (not green) or if Bruce Wayne ever finished university (I don’t think so), you might want to check out the quick-read references below. There’s a good chance your Aspie will still argue but then you can tell him or her to argue with the wiki instead of with you, thereby helping to launch him into the adult Aspie world.
PS — As a side note, if your Aspie is a girl and she gets mad about seeing Aspies referred to as male, or the term “you guys”, tell her to get over it. Chance are that she’s going to often be drawn to mostly male environments/interests/employments/friends. Tell her if she wants to hang with the guys, she’s got to have a tough skin or she’ll get run over. As a female ex-engineer and the daughter of a female construction worker, I know what I’m talking about. Being girlie is great, but we can’t let it limit us.